Thursday, 30 August 2012

A Cafe O Play Date with a "longtime" friend

My old (she's not and I certainly am not old so maybe I should say "longtime"?!) friend Amanda is in town this weekend. We set up a playdate at the famous Cafe O Play this morning.
 We haven't seen each other since her youngest was born.....he is 2 now! It was really great to catch up on each others busy lives.
 We used to be like 2 peas in a pod. We went to high school together, we were in marching band together (yes you read that right!) and basically did everything together.
Those were the easy days! Now our lives are consumed with kids (& how to get more of them for some reason!) husbands, jobs (or a few hours of collecting pay in our cases), vacations and how to get more of them on less money!
I missed her and didn't realize how much until today.
It's a funny thing when you are in high school you think nothing will ever change. Go figure.
I miss being too smart for my own good, having summers off, no bills to pay (except car insurance for a car that was short lived!), and your biggest worry being boys.
Now that we are older and wiser it has come full circle that our biggest worries are still boys since that is what we both have (for now anyways)
The conversation have shifted to sleep patterns, bad habits (how to break them), what to feed them, where to go.
I guess it wasn't that much different in high school.....the sleep patterns were that there was an abundant amount of it, bad habits....we won't specify any of those.....we were always doing some form of baking for boys and what nighclub was having ladies night was where we were going!
 I always knew she would be a mother of at least a few kids...she was always the one taking care of us, and she was really good at it.
I hope some of her motherly notions have rubbed of on me.
 It's great to see your friends in that role and doing a really good job!
Miss you friend, lets not wait so long next time!

Tuesday, 28 August 2012

How do they do it!?

You know those moms.....that seem like they have it all together. Their children are well groomed, their clothes are ironed and their hair is washed and blown out. The house is perfect and dinner is cooked every day even though they took the kids to the park and hit the mall for some shopping. What the hell!? I only have 1 kid and can only time for one event a day.....park or shopping or playdate...not numerous things. My house isn't always clean.....I hate cleaning and this house is so big that it takes way longer to clean. Yes, my main floor looks like a daycare with toys strewn everywhere, which is exactly what I said it wouldn't look like. Open a magazine and every new celebrity mom looks perfect, well rested, not a single baby fat pound lingering on their bodies and their kids are wearing Gucci. This is a unrealistic picture of reality for 99% of us, and I keep having to remind myyself of that. It's really hard. Even though most days we are in our pjs until noon, I know one thing for sure. My boy is happy and loved and gets all of my attention.(most of the time) He knows who I am, cries when I leave and runs to me when I return. He doesn't notice that my hair hasn't been washed in 2 days or that there are dishes in the sink. At this point thats all that matters, his happiness. Sometimes its hard to not let the little things bother me, but I know I am doing the best I can at this point. It all boils down to whats important and here is a little note borrowed from a friends fb post: "The Law of Relevance": "No matter how scared, or tired, or ill you are; no matter how lost, or confused, or desperate you become; no matter how lonely, depressed, or cranky you feel... if you just do what you can, with what you have, from right where you are, IT WILL ALWAYS BE ENOUGH." Pretty good odds, huh? ~Your legal beagle, The Universe" Thats all we can ask. Have a great day!!!

Monday, 27 August 2012

The start of fall and the completion of a yard

Fall is in the air. I can feel it in the morning when I am chasing a little dog down the road for his morning "business". Its ok though...that means the start of my favorite holiday, Christmas!! I wish it lasted twice as long, with half as much cold. Leo and I went to take dad his lunch to work that he forgot and he got to sit up on a big machine with daddy...he thought it was great!
This weekend our deck was almost completed. You can step out our back door onto something.The only thing missing is the stairs and the grass to step onto from them. Those are yet to come this year. Oh Joy!! We have spent the last 4 summers with NO YARD. Now that there is a little man in our lives it is really hard not to have your own little piece of land to play in. We spent a lot of time travelling to spray parks, swimming pools and play areas around the city because we didn't have one. Unfortunately by the time we get one it will be almost too chilly to enjoy. The joys of building a new house....which I Promise I won't do again, at least not for a really long time! My sister and I are very lucky to have a perfectionist carpenter for a father, unfortunately for him both his girls married "unhandies". It also comes down to the fact that because our father is SOOO good at what he does, he instilled high expectations in his girls, therefore making us high maintaince. Sorry dad, it is kind of your fault though! I appreciate all the work he does for us around the house, and I know my husband doesn't really mind, less for him to get in trouble for doing wrong. I also realize that by having a handy dad he has saved us boatloads of money by not having to pay someone to do these things. Why does everything cost so much? I don't know how people do it when they don't have someone like my dad in the family. The only final touch missing is furniture and a BBQ....all that is out there now is Leo's little picnic table which he doesn't really want to sit at when he can run around and be chased so he doesn't plumet off the edge. Fidel doesn't care though, as long as there is sun for him to bask in he is a happy dog.
Thank you a million times dad, and I promise to have a LOT of sunday bbqs at our house next year!

Thursday, 23 August 2012

the end of my baby bonding!?

The time has come.
I have to stop breast feeding my boy.
 I have been the butt of jokes in my moms group that I am going to breast feed him until he is 5. The cover of Time magazine with a 5 year old still being breast fed didn't really help. That was going to be me if I didn't stop. It didn't bother me though.
 I like the morning/night routine we have and the cuddles he gives me while I nourish and grow my baby.
We are working on giving him a sibling, so I know I have to stop.
A part of me is sad and a part of me wants him to stay little forever.
I just LOVE having a baby. Who knew?!
Now that he is walking the cuddles are few and far between during the day, unless of course he falls and cries....then they always want mommy to hold them.
I have to come to terms that he is growing, and that is the whole point of having kids, to watch them grow. Why does it have to happen so fast though?
I did enjoy every minute of him being a baby....I held that boy as much as possible. Which probably contributed to his perfectly round head, since he never laid on it.
I am coming to realize that it is harder for me than it is going to be for him since there has been occasions where dad puts him to bed and he is fine.
 Maybe he doesn't need it anymore. Its hard to separate that thought and the feeling that he doesn't need me.I have been a breast feeding success. I lasted over a year. On to the next phase of toddlerhood.

Monday, 20 August 2012

our new princess

This is the new little princess in our family. Leo's first and only cousin, Chloe.
I know what my baby will look like if I happen to have a girl now, a beautiful little ginger, just like her aunt was!:)
I organized the shower to welcome her into our lives on the weekend. We couldnt have asked for better weather....maybe a little shade in grandmas back yard would have helped though.
We decorated it with pink and white balloons and tissue flowers that I spent countless evenings putting together. It looked beautiful.....enough so that this may be a new career path since I Love party planning!
A headeband/barette station was set up for everyone to create cute little accessories for her.
There were a lot of great mini brunch foods including mini yogourt parfaits, mini quiche, mini bran muffins, mini cupcakes.....get the theme yet?!
The hit of the day though was the bacon skewers. Bacon is always a hit and there is never any left over! I skewered it to look like ribbon on a stick and before putting in the oven we sprinkled it with brown sugar and crushed pecans before baking at 350 for 20(ish) minutes...depending on the thickness of your bacon. Out of everything made this was the most talked about...definetly going to be served at all our brunch get togethers from now on.

good bye to sleeping in

This is the reason I get up early every day. The days of sleeping in are over.
I don't mind though. There is nothing better than seeing this little man standing up and reaching his arms out for me to pick him up. The best is our morning hug where he rests his head on my shoulder and wraps his little arms around my neck.
I never thought I wanted to be a mom.
It wasn't really in the plan for my life, but man am I ever glad every day I had a change of heart because now mine is full of love for a little peanut.